We are rapidly approaching a time of year that some of us embrace, while others dread the exposure to the dysfunctional reminder of a difficult childhood. It's holiday time! When we're with family (biological), it may occur that although we are adults, some things never change. Old childhood pain can rear its ugly head as negativity fills the room as heavy as the smell of the turkey in the oven.
If I may offer you something before the season launches? It is ALWAYS your choice if you want to participate in family functions. There's no such thing as biological obligation. As an adult, you are responsible for drawing boundaries and stating how something may occur to you as hurtful and unacceptable. Celebrate!! You're no longer a helpless child with no control.
If you are someone on a spiritual path, speaking and acting from the heart-space (the actual organ) provides a higher frequency of love which radiates all around you. Despite how you may be received, spoken to or ignored, these occasions give you an opportunity to come from compassion, acceptance and non-judgement.
And here's the kicker. No one is to blame for how you feel! It is my belief that we chose our family before we come here, specifically to clear ancestral trauma and to learn valuable lessons. More about this in my next post! Be thankful in each and every present moment as I am thankful for all of you! Happy Holiday Season!
Light and Love,