According to Websters Dictionary, the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles, moral uprightness and incorruptability is the definition of integrity. Being honest is being true to yourself. It is being authentic about sharing how something occurs for you and then allowing the other person to do so as well.. Authenticity is not about righteousness or judgment. Nor is it about pushing your agenda. Your truth is not everyone's truth. Allowing means no response defensively or invalidation of what's being shared with you.
Integrity has nothing to do with honesty, moral principles or uprightness. It is all about "being" your word, "being" in communication and cleaning up when your integrity is out.. When you say something, you are count-on-able to be your word. Your word is the most important and powerful thing you have. Do what you say you are going to do or don't say it at all.
When you are out of integrity, take responsibility with no excuses. It's not I'm sorry but.....simply stated, I did not do what I said I was going to do. Cleaning up an out of integrity is followed by an apology and a commitment to not repeat the behavior. Start "being" in integrity, authentic and count-on-able and see the impact it will have in every area of your life. Words have power.
Love and Light,
Often when a new year begins, we reflect on the changes or aspirations we would like to create. Questions within us arise as to "how" we can create more contentment, joy, peace and love in our lives. All of these aspects of life are easily blocked unconsciously, by past events, emotional harms and trauma and even our upbringing.
At The Wellness Sanctuary Spiritual Teaching and Healing Center you will receive guidance, support and healing in releasing all the aspects of your life which hold you back from your Higher Self and souls desires. A full listing of all the classes available is under the Program tab for your review. If you have a particular class that interests you, please contact me personally and we will arrange a time that works for you to attend.
The following Services are offered by Appointment Only:
Life Coaching/Spiritual Advisement
Chios Energy Healing Treatment
Midwest Chios Energy Healing School (Certification program)
BioMat Therapy with MA
RIFE Vibrational Therapy
Adjunct Therapies: CBD oil, Essential Oils, Nutritional Advisement, Personal Homework
A program will be personalized for you based on your specific needs. Here's to an incredible 2019!
Light and Love,
Living a life of possibility is stopped by many things. Primarily, the strongest of these are the ego and fear. Ego will have you believe that your personal self-worth is based on "doing"" You are perfect, whole and complete at every moment because you exist as a piece of Divinity.
Social agreement, familial training and expectations were placed on you at childhood. If you made a mistake, depending on the health of your family environment you may have been made to feel bad or wrong. As a child, there were no options but to rely on the adults in your life to insure your well-being which for many of us, did not happen as they themselves were raised in dysfunction.
Newsflash!! You're no longer a child, you are an adult. Taking back your power, being in control of your life is now in your hands. F.E.A.R. false expectations appearing real were most certainly created in childhood and carried into your adult life. Many of us were not taught how to create boundaries of what's acceptable and what is not. Nor were we taught that our personal well-being comes first. You choose whether you will allow other people's expectations and judgments to control you and have meaning.
Now as an adult, you get to say how things go and whether they work for you or not, creating boundaries. Sometimes, things will not look they way we thought they would. Releasing expectations, creating boundaries, and making self-love and self-respect a priority, eliminates ego and fear-based barriers.
It's YOUR life. Live it to its fullest!!
Light and Love,
With the New Year upon us, living in possibility and the present moment is the most impactful "resolution" you can make, if you're committed to a new way of being in 2019!
The art of living in the present moment allows us to experience life as each second of it unfolds. Human being is conditioned to be in one task and already thinking about what's next on the to do list, where you have to be, etc...stealing the opportunity to experience all that the present moment has to offer. Being present eliminates and manages depression and anxiety.
As ego runs the show, defining your value by do, do, do and have, have, have, the most important aspect of you is gone. That aspect is you as spirit, human BEING not human DOING. When everything has an expectation and an attachment to outcome, it leaves no room for the serendipity of a life of possibility to occur.
"Allowing" and following the flow of life as it occurs without willfully insisting how something "needs" to be or look, creates the space for infinite possibilities. It also creates a tremendous amount of peace and joy. We all have responsibilities. Don't get me wrong. I'm not abdicating that you become totally irresponsible. My request is that as you go through your day to be present to your blessings, your greatness and the beauty around you with total focus in the moment. Do it with joy, not obligation. Do it because you choose to, not because you have to and you will see a totally new experience emerge.
Here's to Infinite Possibility in 2019! Wishing you love, joy, peace and empowerment.
Light and Love,
Most recently, on several occasions, I have heard people say "It just doesn't "feel" like Christmas." Of course as human beings, we put all kinds of meaning on everything that is truly meaningless. It's just your perception or how things occur for you personally.
The "feeling" of Christmas which is perceived as joy, love, happiness and gifting, like any Hallmark holiday movie is a romanticized version of life. Having expectations that any outside influences like snow, gifts, food and liquor etc will create the "feeling" of Christmas is truly not connecting to the "feeling." Although all these things may provide a quick joyful moment, that "feeling" doesn't last. Why? Because these things are outside of you.
Ego wants to "feel" these emotions generated by things outside yourself for control and various other things from the past that get activated. "Feelings" of joy, peace and love are the expansion of the heart space and your soul's growth. Generating the "feeling" of Christmas can occur 365 days of the year when we chose to live in our heart space with no expectations and attachments to outcomes, generating love, peace and joy in each and every present moment. That's truly who we are in spirit.
May you live this "feeling" every day of your life!
Peace and Love,
When there's a discussion, whether heated or not, have you ever noticed that your brain (ego) is already preparing answers to what's being shared? When this occurs, we are not even present to the conversation. Often times, what's being shared is feelings and emotions that are difficult to voice, particularly when people are hurting.
We all deserve to be honored and given a space that is safe to share our deepest vulnerabilities without response, judgement and with compassion. This is called "Holding Space" which is an energetic way of being. You actually generate, from your heart space, love and allowing which creates an energetic frequency around you and out into the space of conversation.
Constructive conversation during disagreements involves acknowledgement such as "Thank you for sharing how you feel about that. I know you are hurting." Being a listening then occurs, which means no response, no knee jerk defensive behavior, no yelling, just listening to what is being shared. You then may take as long as you feel comfortable with how what was shared occurs for you. Request "I need to process what has been shared. Please give me a few days to be with this and I will be in communication."
This is not about defending what has been shared. This is about how a situation occurs for you. Holding space, honoring and acknowledging and being a listening will guarantee resolution with love and peace.
Love and Light,
Oh no, it’s almost that time again. Resolution time to put more undue pressure on yourself and your “to Do” list. Have you experienced resolve as eventually turning into a bad or wrong because you never get around to it?
I’m proposing a new way of “Being.” “Being Self- Love” in 2019, not doing. You are a human Being, not a human Doing. The social agreement that most live inside of is “Do, Have and Be.” If I do this, I will have that and I will be happy, only to find that when you do acquire the “have” the space is still empty within you and the pursuit for more continues. True self-love is within you, in the present moment, as a personal choice of happiness NOW, not later or based upon an outcome.
You are Spirit in a physical body having an earthly experience. You are not a physical body trying to be spiritual. It is who you are and you are whole and complete at each and every moment. Self- love, joy, peace and happiness can only come from within, not from without.
Connecting to that inner peace is not accomplished by adding more to your “to do” list. Being a certain weight, owning a certain car or home is the pursuit of societal perfection. In the process comes stress, emptiness and certainly not self-love. Peace, joy, love and contentment comes with actually eliminating all the things we pile on in our lives to distance ourselves from “inner work.” You have a 4 part body system, emotional, mental, physical and spiritual. When all areas are in balance, true contentment occurs as you live into your purpose for being, your soul’s purpose.
Physical health and vitality, release of excess weight and health conditions disappear when we address who we are first as Spirit in a physical body. Every other area of your life falls into place. As the Spirit body is cleared, all the trauma and emotional harm that has been experienced is released. By clearing your Auric Field and Chakra System and the very cells and DNA of your being, acknowledging and releasing with forgiveness is true self-love. Thoughts, emotions and experiences are now being created in the present moment, not from harms or experiences of the past.
Through Chios Energy Healing, Meditation and changing thought patterns, a new way of “Being” appears…”Being Self-Love.” To release all that no longer serves your highest good. Your joy, peace and happiness are awaiting you. “Be, Do and Have” in 2019. Here’s to “Being Self-Love” and your most amazing year ever.
Light and Love,
When we are moved to defensive states of mind, ego is running the show. Ego was created at a point in your life as a protection mechanism. As we enter adulthood, the ego can run the show by causing us to value our worth based on doing, money, possessions and judging others by what we deem as unacceptable socially as agreed upon by the majority.
Ego wants things a certain way, having an expectation and attachment to an outcome. Blame is placed on any person, place or thing without taking personal responsibility. We are unavailable for contribution from others, particularly if it interferes with what we want as an outcome.
When we choose to live in spirit, we are human BEING, not human doing. We do not place value on ourselves or devalue others based on possessions, looks or money. We value each other as contributions to the whole of humanity. As our vibration elevates, our soul expands. As the soul expands, the ego panics as it is no longer in control. Embrace your ego voice, tell it "Thank you for sharing, but no that's not so" embrace it and place it in your heart space. Living from spirit/soul empowers you to take personal responsibility for your life from love. Living in the present moment and allowing that all that occurs is in Divine Order allows for the highest good of all and your highest good as well.
Light and Love,
You chose your family. Hmmm...was Thanksgiving a joyful experience or did family dysfunction surface? I know some of us think "What was I thinking when I chose to be in THIS family?" When you were with your familiies Thursday were there things said or actions that were hurtful, personal? Perhaps a negative comment or "jab" at something?
So keeping with No One Is To Blame For How You Feel, how did you feel? Were you or are you going to take the gift (the lesson) given to you, thank (truly) who provided the lesson, look at what was activated, and truly allow yourself to be with the feelings you are feeling?
Identifying and acknowledging how something occurs for you, allows you to re-connect to past situations that created these same feelings. "Oh, that triggered a feeling of disrespect and anger." The person who activated this FOR you (although it may been unconscious) did so out of deep love for you. Yep..you read that correctly.
Emotional harm and trauma can now be brought to the surface to be healed and released. You are no longer a child. You are not a victim unless you choose to be. Be thankful and celebrate these activations at every moment! Need support in this growth? Life/Spiritual Advisement are a call away. Text me 815.263.4537 to begin the faciliation of your personal healing and growth.
Healing Light and Love,
What?!! I can just feel how upset some of you are by this statement. And I get it, but hear me out. That, my friends, is your ego speaking, which throughout our lives is developed to protect us from pain, upset and also from taking personal responsibility for our choices and actions. It's certainly easier to blame others, point fingers and judge.
Personal power is taking responsibility for how you CHOOSE to allow something to affect you. Defensiveness is an immediate response to something you must feel is true. Otherwise, why invest the energy in defending yourself? Being open to others communication, holding a space for them that is safe to express themselves and "being a listening" without immediate response is living from love and spirit, not from ego.
I'm not saying to allow someone to be abusive to you in any way. This is a conversation for boundaries. You choose at every moment, how you will respond. If you must step back and be with the communication for a period of time, then do so without responding immediately in a hurtful manner. Take responsibility if the communication does have validity as it may be a "lesson" opportunity, which it always is!
Often times, those who are in the deepest pain, will strike-out and be the most hurtful. Knowing this provides an opportunity for a space of compassion, not ego. The way of spirit is to acknowledge that everything is in Divine Order. Each communication, interaction or relationship was manifested by you for your growth and most importantly your emotional healing.
We are all Spirit in a physical body. Not physical bodies trying to be spiritual. Coming from a place of pure love, honoring and respect is coming from spirit. No one is to blame for how you feel. Choose how you feel at every moment and celebrate your life with joy and peace, creating a high vibrational energy that benefits everyone, including YOU.
Light and Love,