When there's a discussion, whether heated or not, have you ever noticed that your brain (ego) is already preparing answers to what's being shared? When this occurs, we are not even present to the conversation. Often times, what's being shared is feelings and emotions that are difficult to voice, particularly when people are hurting.
We all deserve to be honored and given a space that is safe to share our deepest vulnerabilities without response, judgement and with compassion. This is called "Holding Space" which is an energetic way of being. You actually generate, from your heart space, love and allowing which creates an energetic frequency around you and out into the space of conversation.
Constructive conversation during disagreements involves acknowledgement such as "Thank you for sharing how you feel about that. I know you are hurting." Being a listening then occurs, which means no response, no knee jerk defensive behavior, no yelling, just listening to what is being shared. You then may take as long as you feel comfortable with how what was shared occurs for you. Request "I need to process what has been shared. Please give me a few days to be with this and I will be in communication."
This is not about defending what has been shared. This is about how a situation occurs for you. Holding space, honoring and acknowledging and being a listening will guarantee resolution with love and peace.
Love and Light,
Oh no, it’s almost that time again. Resolution time to put more undue pressure on yourself and your “to Do” list. Have you experienced resolve as eventually turning into a bad or wrong because you never get around to it?
I’m proposing a new way of “Being.” “Being Self- Love” in 2019, not doing. You are a human Being, not a human Doing. The social agreement that most live inside of is “Do, Have and Be.” If I do this, I will have that and I will be happy, only to find that when you do acquire the “have” the space is still empty within you and the pursuit for more continues. True self-love is within you, in the present moment, as a personal choice of happiness NOW, not later or based upon an outcome.
You are Spirit in a physical body having an earthly experience. You are not a physical body trying to be spiritual. It is who you are and you are whole and complete at each and every moment. Self- love, joy, peace and happiness can only come from within, not from without.
Connecting to that inner peace is not accomplished by adding more to your “to do” list. Being a certain weight, owning a certain car or home is the pursuit of societal perfection. In the process comes stress, emptiness and certainly not self-love. Peace, joy, love and contentment comes with actually eliminating all the things we pile on in our lives to distance ourselves from “inner work.” You have a 4 part body system, emotional, mental, physical and spiritual. When all areas are in balance, true contentment occurs as you live into your purpose for being, your soul’s purpose.
Physical health and vitality, release of excess weight and health conditions disappear when we address who we are first as Spirit in a physical body. Every other area of your life falls into place. As the Spirit body is cleared, all the trauma and emotional harm that has been experienced is released. By clearing your Auric Field and Chakra System and the very cells and DNA of your being, acknowledging and releasing with forgiveness is true self-love. Thoughts, emotions and experiences are now being created in the present moment, not from harms or experiences of the past.
Through Chios Energy Healing, Meditation and changing thought patterns, a new way of “Being” appears…”Being Self-Love.” To release all that no longer serves your highest good. Your joy, peace and happiness are awaiting you. “Be, Do and Have” in 2019. Here’s to “Being Self-Love” and your most amazing year ever.
Light and Love,
When we are moved to defensive states of mind, ego is running the show. Ego was created at a point in your life as a protection mechanism. As we enter adulthood, the ego can run the show by causing us to value our worth based on doing, money, possessions and judging others by what we deem as unacceptable socially as agreed upon by the majority.
Ego wants things a certain way, having an expectation and attachment to an outcome. Blame is placed on any person, place or thing without taking personal responsibility. We are unavailable for contribution from others, particularly if it interferes with what we want as an outcome.
When we choose to live in spirit, we are human BEING, not human doing. We do not place value on ourselves or devalue others based on possessions, looks or money. We value each other as contributions to the whole of humanity. As our vibration elevates, our soul expands. As the soul expands, the ego panics as it is no longer in control. Embrace your ego voice, tell it "Thank you for sharing, but no that's not so" embrace it and place it in your heart space. Living from spirit/soul empowers you to take personal responsibility for your life from love. Living in the present moment and allowing that all that occurs is in Divine Order allows for the highest good of all and your highest good as well.
Light and Love,
You chose your family. Hmmm...was Thanksgiving a joyful experience or did family dysfunction surface? I know some of us think "What was I thinking when I chose to be in THIS family?" When you were with your familiies Thursday were there things said or actions that were hurtful, personal? Perhaps a negative comment or "jab" at something?
So keeping with No One Is To Blame For How You Feel, how did you feel? Were you or are you going to take the gift (the lesson) given to you, thank (truly) who provided the lesson, look at what was activated, and truly allow yourself to be with the feelings you are feeling?
Identifying and acknowledging how something occurs for you, allows you to re-connect to past situations that created these same feelings. "Oh, that triggered a feeling of disrespect and anger." The person who activated this FOR you (although it may been unconscious) did so out of deep love for you. Yep..you read that correctly.
Emotional harm and trauma can now be brought to the surface to be healed and released. You are no longer a child. You are not a victim unless you choose to be. Be thankful and celebrate these activations at every moment! Need support in this growth? Life/Spiritual Advisement are a call away. Text me 815.263.4537 to begin the faciliation of your personal healing and growth.
Healing Light and Love,
What?!! I can just feel how upset some of you are by this statement. And I get it, but hear me out. That, my friends, is your ego speaking, which throughout our lives is developed to protect us from pain, upset and also from taking personal responsibility for our choices and actions. It's certainly easier to blame others, point fingers and judge.
Personal power is taking responsibility for how you CHOOSE to allow something to affect you. Defensiveness is an immediate response to something you must feel is true. Otherwise, why invest the energy in defending yourself? Being open to others communication, holding a space for them that is safe to express themselves and "being a listening" without immediate response is living from love and spirit, not from ego.
I'm not saying to allow someone to be abusive to you in any way. This is a conversation for boundaries. You choose at every moment, how you will respond. If you must step back and be with the communication for a period of time, then do so without responding immediately in a hurtful manner. Take responsibility if the communication does have validity as it may be a "lesson" opportunity, which it always is!
Often times, those who are in the deepest pain, will strike-out and be the most hurtful. Knowing this provides an opportunity for a space of compassion, not ego. The way of spirit is to acknowledge that everything is in Divine Order. Each communication, interaction or relationship was manifested by you for your growth and most importantly your emotional healing.
We are all Spirit in a physical body. Not physical bodies trying to be spiritual. Coming from a place of pure love, honoring and respect is coming from spirit. No one is to blame for how you feel. Choose how you feel at every moment and celebrate your life with joy and peace, creating a high vibrational energy that benefits everyone, including YOU.
Light and Love,
We are rapidly approaching a time of year that some of us embrace, while others dread the exposure to the dysfunctional reminder of a difficult childhood. It's holiday time! When we're with family (biological), it may occur that although we are adults, some things never change. Old childhood pain can rear its ugly head as negativity fills the room as heavy as the smell of the turkey in the oven.
If I may offer you something before the season launches? It is ALWAYS your choice if you want to participate in family functions. There's no such thing as biological obligation. As an adult, you are responsible for drawing boundaries and stating how something may occur to you as hurtful and unacceptable. Celebrate!! You're no longer a helpless child with no control.
If you are someone on a spiritual path, speaking and acting from the heart-space (the actual organ) provides a higher frequency of love which radiates all around you. Despite how you may be received, spoken to or ignored, these occasions give you an opportunity to come from compassion, acceptance and non-judgement.
And here's the kicker. No one is to blame for how you feel! It is my belief that we chose our family before we come here, specifically to clear ancestral trauma and to learn valuable lessons. More about this in my next post! Be thankful in each and every present moment as I am thankful for all of you! Happy Holiday Season!
Light and Love,
The spirit body (your chakras and auric field) retain mental, emotional and physical trauma directly affecting your daily life and choices. Eventually, if left uncleared, there will be a physical manifestation of dis-ease, repeated self-destructive behaviors and a life empty of joy, love and peace.
Whether you would like to learn how to utilize Chios Energy Healing in your daily life for clearing, cleaning, charging and spiritual growth, or you feel a deep need to serve others by becoming a Certified Chios Master Teacher several opportunities are currently available!
Tomorrow, we begin the 16 week journey to Certified Chios Master Teacher. This is a life changing journey as you will be connected to your Ascended Masters, Archangels and guides who walk with you daily to assist you in your life.. Does this resonate in your heart?..sign-up at meetup.com/Midwest-Chios-Energy-Healing-School-Wheaton/
This Series will not be offered again until the Spring of 2019.
OR Come and experience Chios Energy Healing with a FREE 20 minute diagnostic session and ask any questions you may have on November 28th from 7:00 to 9:00 p.m. Please sign-up if interested.
Healing Light and Love,
We have all heard that question throughout our lives, usually starting with our parents when they were in disagreement with a particular behavior! What our parents did not realize at that time was that our thoughts actually affect our physical well-being.
Of course our thoughts lead to actions that always have consequences. We do not always act on our thoughts so how DO they affect our well-being? Negative thoughts that occur throughout our day, whether related to how we are personally feeling about ourselves or about our circumstances, actually have an impact on our bodies vibrational frequency!
ONE negative thought associated with how you are feeling about yourself will lower your frequency by 10 mhz!! The upside...a positive thought, encouraging, supporting and giving yourself love and compassion, can RAISE your frequency by 10 mhz!
Bringing consciousness to how we speak to ourselves will no longer create the question "What Are You Thinking!?" Speak to yourself with love, patience and compassion today and every day! Vibes UP!!
Healing Light and Love,
What IS Vibrational Medicine and why is it our focus at The Wellness Sanctuary? Everything is energy. YOU and everything around you is vibrating at specific frequencies as proven and calibrated scientifically. You are protons, neutrons and electrons. Each of your organs vibrates at a specific frequency with the human body's average at 68 mhz.
The manifestation of dis-ease in the body can be traced to physical harm, negative thoughts low frequency food consumption, and first and foremost emotional trauma/harm. When any or all of these are experienced, the body will experience a core energetic defect in the energetic area (chakra) reflecting the organs affected. When energetic defects are left untreated, dis-ease will manifest out into the physical body.
True and complete healing can only occur when the emotional traumas are identified, acknowledged and released, along with destructive thought forms/behaviors and physically self-destructive habits.
When clearing occurs, you are gently returned to your true self, your Higher Self here to live your purpose and contribution to the planet and humanity! At The Wellness Sanctuary you will be given the support and tools that you need for continued self-healing, growth and transformation!
I'm practicing compassion as I'm maturing in the core qualities of the heart-unconditional love, allowance, acceptance and an unattached desire for the highest outcome for all concerned. I am holding love and light for others in dark moments, without draining my own battery and joining them in the dark.
I'm balancing and managing my care to increase the effectiveness of my compassion, so it's not turning into over care and resulting in energy drain.
Are you living your life from your heart? Would you like to learn techniques for stress reduction, joy, peace and fulfillment? Join me in this 5 week series starting this Friday, July 7th at 7:00 p.m. For full information, please go to meetup.com/wheatonwellness/
I look forward to sharing this amazing way of being and techniques created by the HeartMath Institute.