When we are moved to defensive states of mind, ego is running the show. Ego was created at a point in your life as a protection mechanism. As we enter adulthood, the ego can run the show by causing us to value our worth based on doing, money, possessions and judging others by what we deem as unacceptable socially as agreed upon by the majority.
Ego wants things a certain way, having an expectation and attachment to an outcome. Blame is placed on any person, place or thing without taking personal responsibility. We are unavailable for contribution from others, particularly if it interferes with what we want as an outcome.
When we choose to live in spirit, we are human BEING, not human doing. We do not place value on ourselves or devalue others based on possessions, looks or money. We value each other as contributions to the whole of humanity. As our vibration elevates, our soul expands. As the soul expands, the ego panics as it is no longer in control. Embrace your ego voice, tell it "Thank you for sharing, but no that's not so" embrace it and place it in your heart space. Living from spirit/soul empowers you to take personal responsibility for your life from love. Living in the present moment and allowing that all that occurs is in Divine Order allows for the highest good of all and your highest good as well.
Light and Love,