What?!! I can just feel how upset some of you are by this statement. And I get it, but hear me out. That, my friends, is your ego speaking, which throughout our lives is developed to protect us from pain, upset and also from taking personal responsibility for our choices and actions. It's certainly easier to blame others, point fingers and judge.
Personal power is taking responsibility for how you CHOOSE to allow something to affect you. Defensiveness is an immediate response to something you must feel is true. Otherwise, why invest the energy in defending yourself? Being open to others communication, holding a space for them that is safe to express themselves and "being a listening" without immediate response is living from love and spirit, not from ego.
I'm not saying to allow someone to be abusive to you in any way. This is a conversation for boundaries. You choose at every moment, how you will respond. If you must step back and be with the communication for a period of time, then do so without responding immediately in a hurtful manner. Take responsibility if the communication does have validity as it may be a "lesson" opportunity, which it always is!
Often times, those who are in the deepest pain, will strike-out and be the most hurtful. Knowing this provides an opportunity for a space of compassion, not ego. The way of spirit is to acknowledge that everything is in Divine Order. Each communication, interaction or relationship was manifested by you for your growth and most importantly your emotional healing.
We are all Spirit in a physical body. Not physical bodies trying to be spiritual. Coming from a place of pure love, honoring and respect is coming from spirit. No one is to blame for how you feel. Choose how you feel at every moment and celebrate your life with joy and peace, creating a high vibrational energy that benefits everyone, including YOU.
Light and Love,